The UMC Rift: Faithfulness in Divided Times

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A Special Session of the General Conference of The United Methodist Church took place February 23-26, 2019 in St. Louis, Missouri. The purpose was to act on a report from the Commission on a Way Forward, authorized to examine paragraphs in The Book of Discipline concerning human sexuality and to explore options to strengthen church unity. The vote surprised many people. The Conference rejected the One Church Plan proposed by the bishops and voted 55/45 for the Traditional Plan. This decision retains the current language prohibiting same sex marriage and the ordination of LGBTQ persons. Further action may occur in January 2020, although that is not certain. Meanwhile, as various groups despair or rejoice, there is a feeling of uncertainty and anxiety across congregations.

Let's Get Started!

This Living Room Conversation flows through three rounds of questions and a closing. Some rounds ask you to answer each question. Others feature multiple questions that serve as conversation starters — you need only respond to the one or two you find most interesting.

Before You Begin...

Please go over the Conversation Agreements with your participants.

Introductions: Getting Started/
Why Are We Here?

What interested you or drew you to this conversation?

Round 1: Core Values

Answer one or more of the following:
  • What sense of purpose / mission / duty guides you in your life?
  • What would your best friend say about who you are and what inspires you?
  • What are your hopes and concerns for your community and/or the country?

Round 2:

Remember that the goal for this Living Room Conversation is for all of us to listen and learn about where we have different opinions and where we have shared interests, intentions and goals. Answer ​one or more of the following questions:
  • What concerns or hopes did you have leading up to General Conference? What feelings and emotions were associated with those concerns and hopes?
  • What life experiences brought you to your opinion on this topic (recognizing the way we read and interpret scripture is a unique and personal experience)?
  • What is this time of uncertainty like for you?
  • What is your prayer for The United Methodist Church and for our congregation and  community?
  • If you were creating an agenda to unite our faith community, what would be on it?
  • How do we maintain dignity and loving kindness in our relationships and connections to each other if we have varying beliefs and opinions about this situation? How can we resist the temptation to “otherize” and judge each other harshly?

Round 3: Reflection & Next Steps

Answer ​one or more​ of the following questions: 
  • In one sentence, share what was most meaningful or valuable to you in the experience of this Living Room Conversation?
  • What new understanding or common ground did you find within this topic?
  • Has this conversation changed your perception of anyone in this group, including yourself?
  • Name one important thing that was accomplished here.
  • Is there a next step you would like to take based upon the conversation you just had?

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