Disagreeing about what is right and good (or wrong and bad) can be challenging. Our culture has evolved to reward winners and dismiss losers. Our biology rewards us with dopamine when we are right - and then we want more. Is it any wonder that we all want to be “right” and on the winning team? But relationships are not a game to count the number of times we are right and declare a winner. What is the actual cost to our relationships when we fall into the right/wrong game? And how can we step out of the right/wrong paradigm to explore what’s really important to - and enlivens - us all?