what conversation can we help you create?
The concept may be called Living Room Conversations, but our conversation guides can be used in a variety of settings: any place from break rooms to classrooms to large conferences. For instance, your organization might want to reach beyond its “true believers” and develop relationships with potential allies. Or teachers may need conversation guides around a curriculum topic. The LRC conversation guides are open-source and adaptable to a plethora of uses.
Whatever your needs, Living Room Conversations has a team of partners ready to consult with you to create a custom guide for the conversation you want to have.
What makes a Living Room Conversation?
the ground rules;
structured conversation guide;
intentional inclusion of multiple perspectives;
the self-facilitated nature of the small group format.
Tips for a great conversation
- reaching out to diverse groups to present their viewpoints will make for a richer conversation;
- a five-round conversation can be condensed to three rounds by combining rounds 1 and 2 then 4 and 5;
- if including elected officials, ask them to participate with a small group and listen. Discourage their presentation to the entire group;
- we are here (at just the click of an email) to help you build your custom Living Room Conversation.
We worked with president Debra Rowe, of the U.S. Partnership for Education for Sustainable Development, to create a conversation guide that could be included in college curricula. The goals of this conversation are to improve communications skills (especially listening) with students, connect them with an issue (energy in this case), and take action with their local community and elected officials. This collaboration is an example of how easy it is to adapt Living Room Conversations to support other important work.
These guides were created to expand the course and campus conversations into the surrounding community. Community Energy Conversations creates an engaging and worthwhile activity for any community organization or set of interested individuals to bring community members together and encourage action for positive change. This model has already been used successfully in higher education and local community settings.
Relationships First prepares students to participate thoughtfully in democracy and in life. We are creating a world of well-informed citizens who respect one another and think critically in order to arrive at good decisions for themselves and for society. This partnership was inspired by a Living Room Conversation on youth voting, also featured in the Huffington Post. The young voters and nonvoters all agreed that the value of voting is questionable and they felt ill prepared by their education to vote. We adapted the standard Relationship First materials to fit classroom needs and added a teacher’s guide.
Not all Living Room Conversations happen in a living room. Our Living Room Conversation guides are also used in conference settings. Participants tell us that the Living Room Conversations model allowed them to learn from other participants and increase a sense of community. Our guides help increase people’s skills in productive conversations, including suspending judgment and deep listening. The participant conversations are enriched when there is intentional diversity in each small group. Call us for a consultation. The guide linked allowed the small groups to self-select one of five topics.
In spring 2016, the Episcopal Diocese of El Camino Real requested a Living Room Conversations for church leaders. They participated in two conversations during the day and were then invited to use Living Room Conversations with their congregations. Since that time congregations in the diocese have used Living Room Conversations for a range of conversations. Additionally, we know that communities around the country are looking for pathways to “love their neighbor”. Tallahassee, Kansas City and Salt Lake City have all had community events that included Living Room Conversations adaptations where healing the political divide was a warmly received theme. Particularly we learned that participating in this conversation taught participants a new way of multitasking — learning to love our neighbor and disagree, all at the same time.
Paul Friedman, a facilitator in Sedona, AZ, heard about Living Room Conversations and decided it was a good tool to help improve the quality of conversations in Sedona. And, maybe, he could gain a world-record for the most conversations in a single month. He gave himself all of 2014 to accomplish his goal. Paul met with his community group, asked what they wanted and began to meet their needs. These included sample Living Room Conversations in a public setting, some light facilitation training and the creation of an organizer's guide. Paul also created a video record of before and after stories from the participants. Sedona’s world record stood until 2016.
In 2013 the Contra Costa County Community Living Room Conversation Partners adapted Living Room Conversations as a way to enable health services consumers, providers and the families of consumers to hear about each other's lived and professional experiences with the goal of building trust and improving services. The Living Room Conversation provided a simple means to support people willing to actively reach out and connect across all Contra Costa County public health divisions/silos to create new health care partnerships. The first Living Room Conversation in Contra Costa occurred March 27, 2013 in Concord, followed by a second on September 18 in Richmond. Many providers, clients and family members who participated demonstrated their enthusiasm during the event.